Wednesday, June 29, 2011

It's a GIRL!! Now what?

We're having a girl!! We're very excited and already went shopping for her! I had Vince pick out her first outfit so he could get excited about the whole girl thing. (He still liked the boy clothes better.) He picked a really good one. It's white with 3 light blue bows across the waist (empire waist) and light blue flowers stitched along the bottom. I'll have to post a picture later but we left it in our car in Utah for storage. It's an 18 month size dress so she won't be wearing it for awhile. My parents also contributed a trip to Kid to Kid where a bought a BUNCH of cute stuff! I know I'll get a ton of clothes for baby showers and stuff but I just couldn't help myself! Clothes are the most exciting part of having a girl so I had to live it up!

I can't tell in this picture if she actually has a dog face or if the angle is just weird and it looks like her nose and mouth stick out a lot. I'm sure she'll be cute when she comes out though (well, a couple hours later maybe).

I love her chubby little legs! They said she's a little light but still within the normal range. I don't mind if she stays skinny until she comes out, then we'll make her nice and chubby! With my genes she won't be able to avoid it :)

I love this picture of her cute little feet! I've been feeling them move around in there more and more! Last Saturday while we were at the cabin even Vince got to feel them! I was lying down and felt her move from the outside (first time ever)! So I called Vince over in the off chance that he would feel her too. I wasn't expecting much though. He came over and pressed his head to my belly right under my belly button and it only took a few seconds until I felt her squirm and saw Vince's head move! He looked up and said, "did you do that?" I said no. He pressed his head down again and the same thing happened twice more! I asked him if he was moving his ear or something and he said no. That was her! She kicked harder than she ever has and it was just for her daddy! She's a daddy's-girl already. I know she's going to adore him and vice versa!

She really looks like Donkey Kong in this picture but it's supposed to be of her arms which you can see above her head. I really can't tell what the rest of it is anymore. It made more sense during the ultrasound.

So we were both thinking that she was going to be a boy and it's taken some adjustment for me to accept that she's a girl. It's bad. I'm a little jealous of everyone on facebook announcing boys or even just those people who guessed right. I know it's a not a big deal but I just really wanted to be right. And it seemed like having a boy would be perfect. Vince's side has 8 girls and 2 boys so it would have evened out that side of the family a little bit. My sister is pregnant with a boy and my other sister has an almost 9 month old boy and I thought it would be great to have those 3 little boys running around. We even had a great name for a boy that I was totally in love with and was ready to start calling him out loud. But it's a girl. All my plans are thrown off. I don't love any girl names. I was even planning a pretty neutral nursery but now I'm realizing it's too boyish so I need to girl it up a little. The first night we knew, I had a little break down and started crying and realized I'm terrified of girls; not babies, but anything older than that, yeah! Teenagers are especially bad. Girls always hate their moms. I think it's more rare to have a good relationship with your mom than not. I don't want her to hate me. So now I need to poll all my friends who like their moms and figure out how they did it! I'm sure it will turn out fine and Vince told me all about why I'd be a good mom (he's such a good husband). That's the other thing; I'm already planning on her liking Vince more than me. It's just what happens. Maybe my hormones are getting away from me. Or maybe it's the disappointment of being wrong. But I'm having a little bit of a hard time.

But then I tell myself that baby girls are so cute! I can't wait to teach her how to draw and read and write and gospel stuff and everything I've learned as a girl. I know there will be so many good times ahead and can't get weighed down with everything I'm worried about. I want to be happy and excited about having my only first baby ever so why ruin it for myself?? So yes! I'm very excited to be having a girl! She was a miracle and I know she will continue to be a huge blessing to me and our family. (Any mom advice is still welcome! Thanks anybody who has anything to say!)


  1. I'm going to apologize first and say I'm sorry I don't have any good girl advice, or any advice about not being scared of having a girl because I share the same fears. :) I love having my boy. But at the same time, any child is a beautiful wonderful addition to your family and I'm so happy for you that the Lord heard your desires and gave you one at this time in your life!! So wonderful, and YES, she is a miracle.

    It's so fun to watch you be in the planning stages of your life about how you want everything to be, or how you think everything will turn out. I remember that! I wish I still had that gusto, but alas, it has died down. I used to read so many books and like 5 different email digests about raising kids and what my baby should be doing at that stage. I was really into making sure I could do the BEST of everything for him. But, I got tired. So my advice is this -- enjoy the moment. It's great to make plans and so fun to think about what might be in the future. But don't get too hung up on your plans because things always seem to turn out differently than you expected. And it's great and wonderful that they do because it makes life exciting and keeps you on your toes. Take this first example of how you were planning for a boy and now it's all of a sudden a girl as a key lesson. :)

    Man, I'm so excited for you! Hooray hoorah!! I'm excited to watch you navigate your life over the next year -- it will be quite exciting. Hold on tight! Love ya

  2. I'm so excited for you! Sorry that you were wanting a boy so bad. But after having one of each, I can say that girls are fun in their own special way. I'm very grateful for my girl (even though I didn't want to have any girls). I'm sure you are going to absolutely adore her when she gets here. I wasn't always close to my mom but it was during the age that I wasn't really close to anyone. Don't be scared of those future things because there are so many things that we could worry about if we stressed over them all we would miss out on all the fun happening right now. Even after 2 kids I still don't feel like I can give very good advice because what works for me may not work at all for you. The one thing that I realized was that I will raise my kids my way and some people will agree with what I do and some people will totally disagree. Also with people giving you advice, you don't have to follow it all. Do what works for you and your family. There are hard stages and easy stages but enjoy them all because life goes by fast. Those first 2 months may be really hard but at the same time so beautiful and precious. Good luck! I'm sure you will do great! There are so many things that you just learn by instinct. I can't wait to see pictures of this little angel!

  3. Rachel, sweet beautiful girl,
    When I found out Ryan was a boy, I felt the same way in reverse. Brenton and I were pretty convinced I was having a girl. That night after the ultrasound, I broke down and sobbed, but felt so guilty because I should have been grateful we were having a baby in the first place. The good news is, I got over it with time. I charged right ahead with designing a baseball nursery and buying boy clothes. I also prayed a lot, and got a very powerful feeling that Ryan needed to come first in our family for a reason, and that it was the best thing for our family at that time. It was a very peaceful feeling.

    And seeing as how I'm already crying as I write this, I still know that's true. While holding him the other day I felt that no mother in the world has ever loved her baby the way I love Ryan. I can't imagine having it any other way. The moment I got to feel his little hand wrapped around my finger I knew I would never let it go. I wouldn't trade having him first for anything in the world. He fits so perfectly into our family.

    The Lord has a plan for us. He always does. Often it isn't what we would have picked for ourselves, and then we find out that was a good thing, because His plan is always better anyway.

    I love you, and I'm so thrilled for you! I've already started three new baby girl projects for your little sweetheart, and I'm kinda jealous I don't have a little girl to give them to myself. So when either one of us needs a baby boy/baby girl fix, we'll just need to have a playdate. If you ever need someone to talk to, I'm always a phone call/text away. I miss you, and can't wait to see you in 6 weeks or so.